Is Swearing an Emotional Coping Tool for People in Recovery?

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Psychology Today suggests that for some individuals in recovery the use of profanity can promote emotional regulation to reduce intense feelings that were previously suppressed by substance use. In recovery circles occasional use of strong language, is seen by most as a natural and authentic part of open and honest communications.

Corrupting Talk

From a faith-based perspective embraced by many in recovery, Ephesians 4:29 says, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen".

The Words Used Matter

If the language is merely "colorful" or if it's more damaging, such as derogatory remarks towards others in a community or God? This would warrent a response, whether the group is faith-based, secular, or evidence-based.

In general, people swear for different reasons, such as out of anger, habit, or to relieve stress. Understanding the motivation can help members of faith within a recovery group offer grace and respond with wisdom rather than judgment towards other members.

Coping Skills

Occassional swearing often stems from the need to 'emotionally cope' as a person confronts and process difficult emotions or the harsh reality of homelessness in a supportive and non-judgemental space. Science supports that non-chronic use of strong verbage can activate the autonomic nervous system, creating an anti-stress response that releases endorphins. 

Numerous studies have shown that certain words can function as an emotional release, particularly for pain and social anxiety. Research from Keele University, led by psychologist Dr. Richard Stephens, found that repeating a swear word increased pain tolerance by as much as 33% during a cold pressor test, a response not seen with neutral or fake swear words.

In most 12-step groups and peer support circles the use of light colorful swear words is seen as part of the natural recovery process. There are exceptions of course; some support groups discourage colorful language.

It's important to remember that there are tens of thousands of in-person support groups and thousands more you can attend online, happening every month in the U.S. If one group feels too restrictive or loose with their words, try another support group.

Evidence Regarding Substance Use and Swearing

A 2022 study published by the National Institutes of Health (NIH) examined the relationship between profanity and individual difference.

The study found that a higher self-reported frequency of swearing correlated directly with a history of drug use. However, this association does not establish that people in recovery swear more than others.

Enhancing Therapeutic Rapport

In a non-judgmental space like therapy, swearing can be a sign of trust. It may help a client and therapist build rapport, as it can feel more authentic to the client's experience.

The Role of Group Culture and Inclusion

The social environment of recovery communities also plays a role in how profanity is used and perceived. Our advice is to be patient and tolerant, if someone uses strong words in a group to express their feelings and it offends you? We suggest you ask them politely to soften their language privately using kindness as a baseline or speak to the groups leadership.

To Those Interested in Leading a Support Group

We have led over 200 online recovery meetings and 100 locally in Colusa. Our recommendation to others interested in becoming group facilitators is to above all be friendly, authentic and supportive.

A Word About Language

We recommend that you lead by example and be mindful of your language but avoid criticizing other members in attendance, if they slip up and swear, especially if your hosting location has posted a 'Zero tolerance for profanity" warning verses the universally accepted signage "Please watch your language," which offends no one.

As trusted group leaders, its important to remember that individuals in recovery are healing, and that it's an ongoing 'daily' process Always strive to make everyone feel safe, valued, and accepted.

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